As I said earlier this summer, maybe you can’t get out of the house as much as you want. Maybe you don’t live in a big metropolitan city, where you might be easily accepted. Or maybe you are the only one in your immediate family that knows you are transgendered. Maybe you just aren’t confidant in ‘getting out’! Well GET OVER IT! - You need to get your nerve up and try something new.
As the fall nights tend to cool off, get some momentum in your TG LIFE! Here’s my initial rule: Be able to smile and laugh at yourself – life is amazing. Don’t get so serious you can’t enjoy it! Have fun!
To 99% of all of the people you are going to run into, the majority just doesn’t care if you are transgendered, as long as you dress appropriately and don’t bother them as they scurry down life’s path. Believe me, it’s true. I know it’s a hard fact to swallow that most people could care less about you, but think about it…do you care about the intimate details of everyone you pass on the street? Let’s hope not!
What I’m getting at is that you can’t enjoy yourself until YOU relax. So if you’re worried about going out in public for the first time, go to an accepting place. And then take it up a notch and have some Fun as autumn is upon us!
Become A NFL Cheerleader – At Least In Your Living Room!
I’ve met numerous TG’s who LOVE Football. And let’s face it; haven’t we all secretly wanted to be a cheerleader at one time or another? It doesn’t matter if you can’t go to the game – that’s what big screen televisions are for. And it doesn’t matter if you have the exact cheerleading outfit of your favorite team – that’s what imaginations are for. Dress in your best miniskirt, turn on the tube, and after a brew or two, you’ll be ready for halftime!
***Now if you rally want to cheer a team on in person, do what a friend of mine did. If you are in a big city, contact your local GLBT groups and see if there is a gay sports league. My friend cheered at gay sports events out in the park, dressed in her cheerleading best, and the teams loved it!
Go To A Renaissance Faire
My friend Teeje in Los Angeles has ventured out to several ‘Faires’ and loved it. This is one event where EVERYONE dresses up, so take advantage of the situation! Besides, who amongst us doesn’t want to be a fair maiden? Don’t know where one is? Click HERE for a comprehensive lists to Faires in the U.S.
Go to a TG Convention
My favorite Fall get-togethers are the Southern Comfort Conference in Atlanta, Georgia and the Eureka Getaway in beautiful Eureka Springs, Arkansas. Get Dressed, Get Out, Be Safe and Have Fun! And make some new friends!
Take An Evening Walk In The Crisp Fall Air
Okay – so you’re just getting out of the TG closet. That doesn’t mean your home has to be a bigger one! Start with the back porch or back yard, then slowly work you way down the street! Once you take that first step out, the next steps get easier and easier. Whether it’s the beach or your neighborhood, feeling the fresh air against your TG self is enthralling!
Wrap Yourself Up In A Sweater Dress
Let’s face it, you’ll look, and feel like Ann-Margret in a 1960’s musical! Fall’s the perfect time to change your wardrobe and experiment! Which leads me to…
Shop Till You Drop!!!
There are SALES everywhere! Move the economy forward and spend some of that cash you’ve stashed away! So spruce up your wardrobe by flexing that plastic in your purse! Resale shops are great for bargains, and do check out the TG LIFE advertisers!
Get Your Butt (Padded or Natural) In A Convertible And Put The Pedal To The Metal
As I said for my summer list – If you don’t own one, rent a convertible! Slip into your favorite dress, tie a scarf on your head ala Madonna or Gwen Stefani (Grace Kelly style), and put your high heels on the pedals!
Celebrate Halloween
If you have never been out – here’s the perfect chance, or the perfect excuse if you need one! GET DRESSED! No one will worry if you’re wearing a skirt – believe me! And if you’ve been out for many Halloweens like I have, now’s the perfect occasion for that All-Time favorite outfit! I’m thinking Wonder Woman as a blonde for me personally… if my waist cincher can bare the strain!
Say your wife made you dress as a woman, say your girlfriend made you dress en femme, say your dog made you wear makeup – I don’t care! Just get out!
Throw a TG Party!
Invite your friends over, whether it’s in person, or via the Net. With all of the programs available on the Internet, there’s no reason to be alone anymore! You can party right in your house, or around the world with your new net girlfriends!
Run For Political Office!
What’s that I heard you say? “Are you CRAZY, Gina?” I thought so! If you don’t like the way things are being run in your town, city, state or in your national government – RUN FOR OFFICE! And in case you’ve been hiding under a rock, crossdresser Stu Rasmussen is the mayor of Silverton, Oregon. Read the TG LIFE interview with Stu right HERE.
In Stu’s own words… Don't make the biggest deal out of being transgendered; be yourself, and transgendered just happens to be a part of it. If you're an asshole, and transgendered, you're still an asshole. There was a Benjamin Franklin quote somewhere, something like ‘Live life to the fullest because you're going to be dead a long time.’
That just about says it all!
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