Caution:

This series of articles might Piss You Off!  These might be subjects you don’t want to talk about, you want to ignore, or you might hope no one suspects they exist.

But these subjects do exist, and we get letters on them and in-person questions when we are at nightclubs, gatherings, meetings or conventions.

This is an Interactive article – meaning we want you to leave comments below! But if you think you’ll get flack from doing so, or your friends might not like your answers if they see them, or your wife/S.O. might pop you in the head if she sees your answer, then don’t leave a comment!

The Warning is now over!

Hi, in case you don’t know me I’m Gina Lance, Editor of TG LIFE.  I also have a book out called GET DRESSED! which I’m sure you’ve seen ads for on TG LIFE.  I conceived this series of articles, TABOO Subjects, because there are certain thoughts and feelings that transgendered people, crossdressers to be specific, just don’t talk about. Sure they think about them, because they tell me via email or in person.  But usually these people are even afraid to express their opinions vocally, because we as a TG group are somehow supposed to fit into a mold.




So here goes with TABOO Subject Number Two…

Why Is Bondage And BDSM So Prevalent Among Crossdressers?

And the answer is…  I have no idea and no explanation, but it has aways made me wonder why! So in this case, I went right to a good source, and asked my friend Sandra Gibbons, who hosts the Trannies In Trouble website to add her thoughts:

“For some mysterious reason bondage and crossdressing have always been linked in my mind from my earliest days.  I can remember being about five or six years old, being fascinated with girls' clothes, wanting to dress like and
be a girl, and also having this desire to be bound and gagged as a girl.  I never could figure out where this came from, and finally after many years of trying to suppress it, I just gave up and accepted that this is just the way I am.  I often wonder if the bondage fantasies came from seeing some sort of detective or true crime story on television and being imprinted by that. But I've honestly never been able to really figure it out.  Obviously the way that as a society we often equate femininity with submissiveness or subservience must play into it too.  What's more submissive than being rendered ompletely helpless and unable to cry out?




The fascinating thing is that women's clothes in general can be terribly restrictive and almost like being in a kind of bondage themselves.  High heels prevent a girl from running away, girdles and corsets tightly hold us in place, and short skirts require that we sit with our knees together or crossed, or else risk looking slutty (horrors!).  And in general women's fashions are more tailored and tightly fitted to the body, being potentially more uncomfortable and constraining.  So it's not too far a leap to go from heels, a tight skirt and blouse to ropes, scarves and duct tape.  There's still much about all this that's a mystery to me, but bondage and dressing certainly touch me deeply like nothing else.”


Sandra Gibbons




Thanks Sandra, you really have some good points!

And TG LIFE’s newest columnist, Aphrodite, who pens Diary Of A Sex Goddess suggests…

“…if you are curious you may like the feel of a certain fabric - if so tie your hands together, put the fabric in your mouth and enjoy masturbation. If fabric is an issue, find a friendly restraint for your hands and even a nice gag of your choice.”

Oki doki!

So you, the TG LIFE reader; do you find bondage part of your transgendered life? Do you not only love dressing as a woman, but also like/love being bound tightly and perhaps gagged? Or is this something that doesn’t appeal to you at all?

Do you think dressing as a woman, and perhaps living as a woman, makes you feel more submissive and open to the idea of bondage as so many TG’s do?  This is an Interactive Feature so please give us your comments below!